I am a therapist working with separated families, I work with those who are in the family court system as well as those who are trying to work it out for themselves. I write about the work that I do and the system I do it in, I am interested in how systems and legislation impact upon parental behavior and deliver outcomes that look as if the system is doing the right thing when in actual fact it is often doing the wrong thing.
I write from my heart as well as my head and I am no longer constrained by the weight of illusions such as feminist dogma or rights based perspectives. I am a gender mainstreaming specialist which simply means that I have done a lot of work to understand how men and women do things differently and think differently. I am interested in what makes men and women struggle against the tide after separation to stay close to their kids because I do not believe in the stereotypes of bad dads and abandoned mums that permeate our post separation consciousness.
Recently I have encountered the Coalition Government in its efforts to change policy around family separation and have witnessed first hand the way in which the machinery of the state acts faultlessly to keep everything more or less the same. I have participated in pointless round table meetings and high level policy discussions only to observe that within these, a language of stasis is spoken which prevents any kind of shift in thinking.
I remain unsurprised by the hatred of the masculine in family policy in the UK and am clear in my vision that unless someone speaks about the way in which feminist doctrine strangles the life out of anything that comes close to being unreconstructed and male, we are heading for a fully feminised society in which men and boys will become even more pointless and disregarded than they are now.
Combining this understanding with therapy is a challenge, especially when I write without constraint, but something within me makes me do this because I believe in men and women and girls and boys and I believe in the kind of equality which celebrates and supports the difference between us.